This pole is related to my life. So many factors in a marriage change during those first twenty years, and it is very difficult for both to be totally honest about feelings. This would be the chance to make some changes for the better, or to end the marriage without breaking hearts. It would preclude cheating because knowing a review time was ahead, it might make a partner hold off, knowing the issues would be solved or the marriage would end legally. If the grown children knew this was...
Read more …This pole is related to my life. So many factors in a marriage change during those first twenty years, and it is very difficult for both to be totally honest about feelings. This would be the chance to make some changes for the better, or to end the marriage without breaking hearts. It would preclude cheating because knowing a review time was ahead, it might make a partner hold off, knowing the issues would be solved or the marriage would end legally. If the grown children knew this was going to happen, they might also be relieved, knowing the fighting and tension was going to be stopped, one way or the other -- the differences resolved allowing for a peaceful future, or a divorce allowing for a peaceful future. Now-a-days a woman can be prepared to work and support herself if she was on her own -- why should a man be responsible for her any more than she for him? In a way, this upcoming review can be held over a partner's head, and that could be a good thing. It allows serious problems to be brought out into the open and resolved....alcohol abuse, violent behavior, poor parenting, one taking advantage of the other and unfairhful behavior for examples -- all would have to be addressed and fixed or there is the threat that an unhappy spouse may end the relationship.
